Is it a clear boundary or is someone trying to control you? When is a boundary in integrity and when is it hidden manipulation? Social media is all ablaze about Sara Brady’s recent sharing of text messages between her and ex-boyfriend Jonah Hill, and her labeling his “boundaries” as a form of control. We start here and explore further into the reasons why boundaries are not about trying to change other people’s behavior, how to create more intimacy through agreements and vulnerability, and what to do when someone else wants you to be different as a form of proving you “love” and “respect” them.