For the Loss That Never Got a Ceremony
Grief Has Something to Teach You
A Free 2-Part Live Ceremony for Tending Your Loss, Healing Your Heartbreak, and Honoring Your Beloved Dead
Online | September 26 & 27, 2026
For the Loss That Never Got a Ceremony
Grief Has Something to Teach You
A Free 2-Part Live Ceremony for Tending Your Loss, Healing Your Heartbreak, and Honoring Your Beloved Dead
Online | September 26 & 27, 2026
Maybe it has a name. A person who died. An animal who held a piece of your heart that nothing has quite replaced. A marriage that ended. A friendship that faded without explanation. A version of yourself — before the illness, before the loss, before the world changed — that you are still quietly mourning.
Maybe it doesn't have a name yet. Just a weight. A tightness in the chest. The way certain songs, scents, or seasons bring something forward you can't quite identify. The exhaustion of a grief that has had nowhere to go.
Maybe it's bigger than personal. The state of the world. The climate. Communities being displaced and dismantled. The slow grief of watching things you love change beyond recognition.
Whatever you are carrying, however long you've been carrying it, this is for you…
On September 26th and 27th, HeatherAsh Amara and Sarina Harz-Tolbert, LCSW are gathering for a free 2-part live ceremony to help you name, honor, and begin to tend your grief.
Not fix it. Not rush through it. Tend it — the way you tend a fire. With presence. With care. With the understanding that grief, when it has a container, becomes something you can actually be with rather than something that slowly consumes you.
What We Mean By "Your Beloved Dead"
When we say beloved dead, we mean everyone and everything you have loved and lost.
The grandmother whose wisdom you still yearn for. The best friend taken too soon. The soul dog who knew you better than most humans did. The parent you never got to fully know. The child or partner or sibling whose absence leaves a shape in every room.
But also: the relationship that ended. The life you thought you'd be living by now. The community you lost. The places that have changed beyond recognition. The version of yourself that existed before something broke open.
And the grief that is bigger than personal — the collective ache of living in a world that is grieving itself.
You don't need a traceable family lineage to do this work. You don't need to know your family of origin. You don't need a specific cultural tradition. You need only the honest truth of who and what you are carrying.
That is enough.
"I had not felt seen or acknowledged in the experience of grief and loss that had been carried within my heart space.
After participating in the workshop, I acknowledged all the ways that each of us were experiencing and reflecting a similar beauty and pain.
If you are considering this event, know that your beautiful mirror will be reflected back to you and all of our future journeys together."
Giesela
"Before the workshop, I frequently asked myself, 'What is wrong with me that I am still grieving and not done with this yet?' I was so tired of experiencing a broken heart, I just wanted it gone by any means — including stuffing and ignoring my emotions.
The workshop helped me realize I was also grieving my own health issues, my early forced retirement, loss of my sexual partner, loss of purpose. Acknowledging that my grief also included family and world grief allowed me to be more gentle with myself. Since the workshop, I have sweetly said 'hello, sweetheart' while hugging myself every day. I can hold my grief and my joy simultaneously and allow each the attention needed.
This was truly life changing for me — it provided insight during the workshop and tools to use after. It introduced me to a community that showed up at exactly the right time for me."
Betty R
What These Two Sessions Will Hold
PART 1 — Naming and Honoring Your Loss and Grief
September 26, 2026 · 9 AM Pacific | 12 PM Eastern
We begin in the truth of what you're carrying.
HeatherAsh and Sarina will open the space with a brief grounding practice — breath, body, arriving. Then together, we'll do something that grief rarely gets: we'll name it out loud, in community, without being asked to fix it or rush through it.
You'll receive:
- A teaching on the many faces of grief, the losses that get casseroles and sympathy cards, and the ones that don't. The grief that is personal and the grief that is collective. The grief of death and the grief of living.
- A guided visualization, trauma-informed and gently held, to meet one beloved you are carrying, whoever shows up. It might be a person. It might be an animal. It might be the earth herself, a place that has been lost or is changing. It might be a version of you that you've had to leave behind.
- A simple practice to carry into the hours between Part 1 and Part 2, something small and tangible to help you stay in relationship with what came up rather than pushing it back down.
PART 2 — Build Your Altar, Release Your Burden
September 27, 2026 · 9 AM Pacific | 12 PM Eastern
The second session is ceremony.
Before you arrive, you'll be invited to gather a few simple things from around your home: a photo or image of someone or something you've lost (or a piece of paper with their name), a candle, something from nature, and one object that represents something you are ready to release — a pattern, a grief, a story you've been carrying longer than it belongs to you.
Together, live, we will build an altar.
Not as decoration, as a technology. A place outside your body where grief can be seen, held, and tended so you don't have to hold it alone anymore.
You'll experience:
- A guided altar-building practice, step by step, with HeatherAsh walking you through each element and what it holds
- A live release ceremony, identifying one thing that is ready to be placed on the altar and honored rather than carried. Not thrown away. Witnessed, tended, and released.
- A moment of collective grief, making intentional space for the losses that are bigger than personal. The world. The land. The communities being torn apart. You are not alone in carrying this, and it deserves to be named.
- A grounding integration practice with Sarina to close, bringing you back into your body, back into the present, back into yourself.
And at the close of our second session together: an open door.
If this ceremony touches something in you and you want to go deeper, we'll share how.
Why Now
The ancient Celtic calendar understood something we've largely forgotten: grief has a season.
And as we cross the Autumn Equinox, we enter a season that knows something about endings.
The light begins to recede. The days grow shorter. Gardens begin giving up what they've grown. Leaves change and fall. The natural world doesn't resist the turning. It reminds us that letting go, loss, and change belong to the cycle of life, too.
And yet, we don't always give ourselves the same permission.
We carry the person we lost. The relationship that ended. The life we thought we'd have. The version of ourselves that no longer exists. The family grief that was handed down without anyone ever teaching us what to do with it.
We keep working. Caring for people. Making dinner. Answering emails. Showing up.
And grief comes with us.
Sometimes loudly. Sometimes as an ache we've gotten so used to carrying that we barely notice its weight anymore.
Autumn invites us to notice.
There are times when what we're carrying needs our attention. Time to sit with it, listen to it, and give it the space we may not have been able to give it before.
For centuries, seasonal thresholds have given people a reason to step outside the momentum of everyday life, gather together, honor what has changed, and make space for what has been lost.
That's what we're going to do together.
We'll give grief a container. A place to be witnessed. Practices for listening to what it has to say. And a community where you don't have to explain why you're still grieving, how long it has been, or whether what you've lost is something other people would even call grief.
We gather just after the Autumn Equinox, at the beginning of the long turn toward darkness.
As the light recedes, we have an opportunity to turn toward what has been harder to see. To listen more closely. To discover what has been waiting for our attention in the quiet.
People Say
“HeatherAsh, Sarina, and team create an allowing, deep, safe container where healing and growth happen.”
Berit E.
"I was buoyed through the passing of my beloved Mom, a breakup, a move across the country... the teachings helped me cultivate a grounded, authentic union with my truest self."
Laura Stack
"I love how each practice brings us out of our head and back into and present in our bodies."
Erin R.
Your Ceremony Guides
HeatherAsh Amara
HeatherAsh has been guiding people through grief, loss, and transformation for more than thirty years. As a longtime student and teaching partner of don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements, she brings the Toltec tradition's unflinching and compassionate relationship with death and loss, a tradition that teaches us to befriend what we're most afraid of rather than spend our lives running from it.
She is also the author of Warrior Goddess Training and Wild, Willing, and Wise, and has been leading ancestral healing journeys to Teotihuacán, Mexico, one of the world's most potent sites for this work, for 25 years.
She came to this lineage through apprenticeship, not blood. And she will tell you honestly: that is part of what she will bring to these two sessions. Her own journey of learning to work with grief, loss, and the beloved dead from the outside of a tradition — and what she has found there.
Sarina Harz-Tolbert LCSW
Sarina is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, trauma therapist, certified wilderness rites of passage guide, and 10-year apprentice of HeatherAsh.
They bring something essential to this container: the ability to hold what is genuinely hard. Sarina has spent a decade working with people navigating grief, chronic illness, trauma, and the slow work of getting free. They understand the nervous system. They know how to support people when something tender surfaces and how to help you stay grounded when the work goes deep.
Sarina also brings their own European ancestral lineage to this work, a practice they have built outside of any single cultural container, in honest relationship with their own dead and their own grief.
Together, HeatherAsh and Sarina bring both the ceremonial depth and the clinical grounding to make this space genuinely safe — not just spiritually meaningful, but trauma-informed in the truest sense.
Why We Created This Event
Earlier this year, we asked our community how they were really doing.
What we learned is that the grief we knew was present was actually much, much larger than we realized, and that it was taking more shapes than we had words for. Here is some of what was shared:
"In the last 6 months, 6 people in my life have died. 1 person a month. I am overwhelmed with the compound grief."
"My 2 soul dogs died within 3 weeks of one another. Their passing wiped out what was left of my family in my home."
"I suffer from chronic illness and I grieve the life I once had."
"This past year has been a shedding of almost every identity that I clung to, a releasing of historic me-ness."
"I've been deep in grief for the loss of my husband and daughter."
"A complete separation from my adult children because I won't do what they want me to do."
"Personal and professional heaviness and inertia, world grief and pain which feels immeasurably heavy."
"The political climate, the cruelty, just all the chaos and fear worldwide is so overwhelming. I feel that anger, shut down, freeze state."
This is why we are here. Not because grief is new, but because so much of it has been going unnamed, unwitnessed, and untended.
If you see yourself in any of these — in one of them, or in all of them — this is for you.
"HeatherAsh and Sarina are magical facilitators; they somehow see whatever is needed and ensure everyone feels a personal invitation to step in. The space they create is the feeling sense I hope for in all spaces I'm part of."
Emma Sharkey
Ready to Tend Your Grief?
Yes, It’s Free. Here’s Why…
We are offering this event at no cost because we believe grief work should be accessible and because we know that many of you are already carrying more than enough without adding a financial barrier.
We also want to be transparent with you: at the close of our time together, we will share a paid offering for those who feel called to go deeper. Continuing with us in this paid offering is not required. It is offered because this work has more to give than two sessions can hold.
It is the support of these deeper journeys that makes it possible for us to offer events like this one freely. We share that not to create pressure, but because you deserve to know the full picture before you register.
What we ask in return is simply that you show up. Both sessions if you can. Not because you owe us anything, but because the ceremony builds. Part 1 opens something. Part 2 completes it. The two together are more than the sum of their parts.
Grief Has Something To Teach You
September 26th & 27th, 2026
9am Pacific | 12pm Eastern
Can't attend live? You will have the opportunity to register to receive the recordings for just $7 USD after you submit your registration.
This Is For You If:
- You are carrying grief that hasn't had anywhere to go
- You've lost someone — a person, an animal, a relationship, a version of yourself — and you're still carrying it
- You feel the weight of collective grief and don't know what to do with it
- You've never had a ritual or ceremony for your losses and something in you knows you need one
- You don't have a specific cultural tradition around death and grief but you want a practice
- You are new to this kind of work and want to begin somewhere safe
- You are familiar with HeatherAsh or Sarina's work and want to go deeper
- You feel called and you're not entirely sure why — that's enough
"I wasn't expecting the emotions and power, or to be brought to absolute tears during the meditation. Truly, thank you."
Shae
"This community of women provides a safe place to be vulnerable and show all the messy parts without judgment."
Robin C.
"I love this community! Being able to witness others' inner beauty and vulnerability is an honor I don't take for granted. Even just that glimpse into people and feeling their energy is profound."
Bethany
A Note Before You Go
If you've been waiting for a sign that it's time to tend your grief — this is it.
This isn’t about “getting over it” or bypassing the hurt. It’s about naming it, processing it, and honoring it by finding a way to continue to live alongside it. You deserve a space that can hold it with you. A ceremony. A community. Two gatherings with facilitators who have spent decades learning how to be with loss without flinching.
Your grief is not too much. Your beloved dead deserve to be honored. And you don't have to keep carrying this alone.
We'll see you on September 26th.
With love,
HeatherAsh and Sarina
If you have any questions or need support registering, just email Team Pixie at hello@warriorgoddess.com. We're here for you every step of the way.